The lessons I learned from " Who tf did I marry"

List of lessons I learned from the famous Tiktoker ReesaTeesa's self-titled 52-part series (no spoilers).

A brave black woman who goes by ReesaTeesa on TikTok less than seven days ago decided to use her testimonial on dating, marrying, and divorcing a pathological liar and surviving emotional abuse. She uploaded a 52-part series titled “ Who tf did I marry.”

In less than a week, her vulnerability, transparency, and heartbreaking story gained about a million followers.

Even if you have not watched the entire series, by the time you finish this blog post, you will learn the main lessons from her testimony about marrying the wrong man.

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Do not rush God.

In part 16, the interlude, she gave a powerful message about how she felt God was taking too long to provide her with a partner. She was ready to be married and wanted to bend God’s will to fit her goal. Often, women wish to have children and be married ( 90% of my followers and supporters), and because of that, we are aware of our biological clock. I have this joke with my friends that I believe we all hear it ticking. The pressures of school, careers, dating, and having it all by the time we are still in childbearing age are legitimate concerns that most of us face.

God “taking too long” or losing faith in what you are praying for is the main ingredient to complete disaster.

When it comes to marriage and the family unit, the Devil is always waiting to steal, kill, and destroy. Distracting you from a partner who does not value the same things can hinder you from your intended purpose.

Please don’t move your boundaries.

In the beginning, she shared how she was ready to be married and found herself doing the opposite of what she believed and was taught by her parents. She does not believe in playing house! However, she moved in with her boyfriend within a month of dating. During the time, it was COVID-19, which was already fear-driven with all the media pressures and unknown medical information spreading across the world.

Although it was during COVID-19, I want you to know that this occurred in Atlanta, GA (my hometown and where I reside). We were not shut down as long as the rest of the world.

House is a game reserved only for children. Once we grow up, we stop playing that.

Moving in with her boyfriend was one of the only times she shared with her friends what was happening in the relationship. When she shared they were moving in, her friends asked if she was sure. Her response was, “ I did not want quarantine alone.”

Your intuition is always correct.

Before the wedding occurred, looking back, she shared that each time, the red flag and the feeling in her stomach and body did not sit well with her.

Our bodies are made to alarm us when something is wrong. The Holy Spirit is your helper and is alive in you to tell you when something is wrong. Refrain from finding out exactly what it is.

By part 23 of the 52-part series, Reesa Teesa shared more than ten times she did not feel suitable for his answers and actions.

Outside of her testimony, there were also times when other women told her that they had bad feelings about her husband's actions. God knew she was second-guessing and ignoring her intuition, so he sent others.

The difference between a pathological liar and a compulsive liar

You can find all this and the embedded videos on my website here. I never remotely thought about the difference between the two. According to the internet, the difference is in the intent.

Pathological Liars

According to the Newport Institute, pathological liars are not considered to have a mental health disorder but disordered thinking. These liars are compulsive, and their lies are elaborate, often driven by irrational needs and manipulation.

Compulsive liars

For compulsive liars, it just feels right. Telling the truth can be awkward, and they are likelier to admit lying when confronted. They lie for no real reason and sometimes no benefit.